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Role Model

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This complete revelation just hit me the other day when I was driving on the 405 on the way to my precious daughter’s first-ever hockey game.  Yes, folks.  We dream of the day where we finally become a mom and bring a new life into this great vast planet, she (or he) is perfect and then they grow and find their own way, their own dislikes, their own music style, their own type of friend and roller hockey (I’m certain there will be a post on this topic eventually).  This sort of forced wake-up call that your child’s days of being a child move faster and faster every day and it makes you think…

Am I doing all the things right?

I’m a good mom, I feel like my best is enough.  Most days.  I work hard, and with focus, which helps me to set a strong example.  I cook good healthy food, give her tons of love, have random dance parties before bed, make sure she is surrounded by friends and family, sports, art, music, events, playdates… BUT I mess up and I know it. I’m sure on some level I  mess up daily.
This one day, I completely messed up River’s ponytail, I knew she would hate it, but we were running late and I left it anyway and didn’t offer to redo it 🙁 I was completely maxed out as a hairstylist at the moment.   Ok I know this isn’t a big deal, but to her it was.  From a childs perspective that is a pressing issue. Why should we want to be parents?
I’d like to also admit to the following: forgetting favorite snacks, being too tired to skateboard, ordering the whole neighborhood out of my house.  Wait, that part is not a mess up.  Freshly mopped floors are priceless, ten minutes of cleaning is worth it.  I digress, going back to my main point.  Presence is lacking, we are too booked, running on no breakfast, multitasking parents and it takes a toll on our kids.  Moms, Dads, parents, family friends, and even people without kids.  We have to set better examples.  I have many friends with kids. Some of them are incredible, tuned in, on top of their manners, etc, and then there are others who aren’t going to make the parents of the year list.   JoJo I’ll admit it, sometime’s I’m no picnic to be around.  However, I promise that I take note of it, the second my grumpy side lurks if the ugly face, I regret the actions I’ve taken to whomever it is.  Especially if it’s a child.  They’re so unaware of how we behave and why, therefore they have so many questions, so naturally, they seek us for answers, and it truly couldn’t be more flattering.  In my 405 Fwy revelation, I realized why I’m here.
  • To set an example: lead the littles so they see who to be when they grow up.  Not what to be, that’s a whole other story.  If we show this type of kind, generous, and forgiving behavior, imagine what they can do in this world.  When we are old farts that will work out for us when those younger generations will be calling the shots when it comes to our sponge baths.
  • Facilitate their needs: So basically fill the future emotional bank accounts of the needs of these little future badasses.  If I don’t focus and work my ass off today, I won’t be able to provide the things my daughter will need in the future.  Did you know the average college tuition to a four-year university is $34,740?  I don’t know about you, but that is a nice chunk per year I’m going to have to own up to. We’ve got this, right?!

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That’s all. Just those two simple steps are the sure-fire way to create the most well-balanced human.   Kidding, obviously, children need so much more.  I just realized that at times we seem to move through life so fast, as parents and leaders we must think about every action we take before we take it.  I hate to admit it but, it took me a good portion of six hours to write this post.  Why?  Well, I was on a roll, fingers a blaze at the keyboard.  Then I had to stop, make dinner, homework, wash the dishes, mop the floor (or I will strongly dislike myself all week).  Giggle in bed for a bit, talk about Spring Break is over, convince my daughter to go to sleep, try not to fall asleep, instead grab the laptop, and then boom, I’m back.

I’m glad to be a parent in this day and age.  Yes, we have many unique obstacles and choices to make as to not raise poor quality humans (eh hem) it just comes back to basics.  Kindness, love, and presence.
I get up at 4:30 am, the world is quiet, there is an incredible amount of uninterrupted silence.  I can focus on myself, maybe run, maybe write.  Who knows, maybe even take a long shower and take my time to get ready for work.  For the record…my favorite job description is mom.

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Techie Kids 🖥

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Back when River was only a few months old in 2009, I wrote this heart felt post about being aware as parents with technology use in front of our children.  Flash forward almost a decade, it’s everywhere and there ain’t no stopping.  If you’re child is anything like mine growing up in a rapidly changing world of technology and smart devices then you know what I’m talking about.  Even though we have great control over our hand held devices in our home, River has a genuine passion for technology and wants to get involved.

Having a mom who works in the digital space, she’s seen me build a few hundred websites, navigate popular social media accounts and even work for hours creating a graphic design piece for a client or edit a how to video.  She’s ultra aware of what smart technology is capable of and even knows her way around a few programs.  Which leads me to my main focus for this article.

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We live in a home with no TV subscription, no satellite or cable, just streaming off our Apple TV.  River doesn’t get up and watch Saturday morning cartoons on USA or Cartoon Network.  She seeks out her favorite channels on Youtube Red or navigates to her Netflix login where she can find suggested shows based of her recently viewed.  This is truly a movement in the future of how our children receive information.  It’s also where she draws some of her creative inspiration.  She’s watching kids her age create their own content and have a blast while doing it.  For months she’s been working on her own videos and asks me repeatedly to help her set up a youtube channel.  So of course I watched her videos, gave her some tips and kept pushing her to create something unique and totally her.  After several attempted tries she’s come up with a bunch of great ideas.  Starting with some super fresh how to videos which are on their way she is very excited to be a positive channel for kids to learn, laugh and hopefully feel inspired by what she has up her sleeve.  Below is one of her first silly videos where she does my voice over in my fashion photography commercial I posted a year or so ago. Silly girl, I just love her witty little personality!

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Riversmom Re-boot

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Recently I found myself curious again about my previous efforts running a mommy blog.  Back in 2007 when I started it was a whole other ballgame.  A ballgame that had a much smaller audience, a better reach option for unique content about being a mommy in todays world.  At the time I didn’t know anyone else blogging about parenting, or health topics, I was the go to blog to read amongst my group of mommy friends. So what I’m really saying is that to bring this blog back to life, I need some good content and topics that other moms are talking about!

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I’ve been beyond busy as a mommy to one perfect little girl, River Rae.  She’s now 8, homeschooled, multi talented, hilarious and sassy as can be.  She’s basically a tiny me, so yea!

I hope to cover topics in the coming weeks, months and hopefully years such as: positive parenting, technology and children and healthy eating and activities for kiddos and moms!

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What’s Really For Dinner (Part 2)

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growth hormones in our food, antibiodics

So as if the debate on meat eaters versus vegetarian wasn’t confusing enough I have some more exciting info to share.  For all the meat eaters out there, next time you sit down to order a burger or even a steak at your favorite fine and dine restaurant, just know that more than likely especially if the option of Organic Meats, Corn Fed, or Free Range isn’t listed on the menu anywhere, you’re preparing to eat a nice helping of added hormones and antibiotics.  Oh big deal you say, my Doc has given me antibiotics several times.  Yea that Zpac sure seemed helpful when you couldn’t kick that heavy cold, however do you really understand the adverse effects of Antibiotics?  Antibiotics literally kill all living bacteria inside your body, and yes if they are consumed through eating meat treated with Antibiotics they still enter your body.  So what’s so bad you ask about killing all the bacteria….well we need good bacteria to ward off all sorts of diseases and infections.   Many adults later in life are now more than ever seeing bacterial infections (the bad kind) in their systems, Candida Albicans  or even Chronic Fatigue.   Okay, so without getting too off track here back to point, Antibiotics and other Hormones are being added to way too many of our food supply and making some serious changes through out the population.  The obesity epidemic alone has dramatically changed in the United States where food is altered more so than other countries.

You may be wondering why are these crappy things being added to our food?  Well Antibiotics and Hormones help grow bigger, fatter animals, who in turn produce more milk and more meat, which means more money.  Big surprise huh the ugly monster beneath all the madness is money, who’da thunk it!  Fortunately, we are a very aware society and becoming more aware everyday, and finding Organic meats, cheeses, milk and produce is becoming more simple.  Granted yes reaching for Natural and Organic options can be harder on your pocket book, however you can always choose to be more selective on which items you spring for.  Look for Farm Raised, without Hormones, Antibiotics etc.  Also grabbing up some raw cheese or switching to a milk alternative is also a great option.  I know I was raised on whole milk, so I completely understand the craziness behind cutting out the cow when it comes to milk, at the same time we’ve got some fantastic options for rice, almond and now coconut milk all around us.

Here is a few facts I found on a super helpful site:

  • Antibiotics given to cows to treat mastitis results in antibiotic residues in milk. Apart from causing health problems in those who drink this, it can lead to the development of antibiotic resistance amongst bacteria present in the person’s body.
  • Scientific studies link rBGH to cancer citing the fact that the presence of rBGH in the cow’s blood stimulates production of another hormone (Insulin-Like Growth Factor) in the cow and traces of it are found in its milk. Since this hormone is also active within humans, it can lead to uncontrolled cell division or cancer.
  • Exposure to growth hormones in beef could be putting Americans at risk for infertility. A recent study found that women who routinely ate beef were far more likely to give birth to boys who grow up to have lower-than-normal sperm counts.
  • Hormone residues in beef have been implicated in the early onset of puberty in girls, which could put them at greater risk of developing breast and other forms of cancer.

As a whole parts of our society that has cut out dairy alone has seen a significant amount of change in their immune system, stating not getting nearly as sick or for the period of time they where sick as in the past.  Personally I can say my daughter has been drinking rice milk since one and shes only been sick  a few times in her span of three years.  Never once has she needed an antibiotic.  I guess it makes sense that if shes not ingesting these unknown hormones and additional bad bacteria her bodies going to be stronger and better able to kick a cold before it becomes something else.  I found some really great articles that speak more extensively on this topic, so if you’re interested further please take a look!

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/meat/safe/overview.html

Hormones in milk, beef, could put kids at even higher risk

http://www.copperwiki.org/index.php/Growth_Hormones_in_Food

Thanks for reading!

Amber

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☙ My Garden Girl ❧

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So kids wanna play and play and play. Moms want them to eat, rest, learn, grow and be challenged. With that said Being creative and keeping their daily grind fresh and exciting gets tough! Let’s face it moms the day to day that may keep you at bay probably bores the heck out of your little ones. Recently I’ve taken up a new hobby for River and I to do together, gardening!

We started a garden right at the beginning of spring! While it’s obviously a first for River I myself have never grown anything besides sea monkeys in one those plastic container things they come and that hardly seems like something to be proud of, ok I guess the are pretty cool 😉

Starting small we’ve worked our way up to quite an exciting variety and we are both having a blast taking care of it. Everything from the plants we picked to the watering and trimming, we do together! It’s so rewarding to be off doing something else and she stops to ask me if we can go work in the garden 🙂

So moms if your looking for a fun little activity for you and yours try it out, even if it’s a little 1 x 1 box just to put a few seedlings into so you can teach your child about nature and watch a vegetable grow before his eyes!

Here are a few tips for gardening with kids!

  • Get him or her their own little shovel, watering can, gardening shoes, etc.
  • Let them help and suggest the plants they’d like to see grow or even the fruits and veggies they already love to eat!
  • Make sure you got some color variety, this makes for excitement when your veggies start to bloom, plus you can work on learning all those colors.
  • Don’t forget to teach basics like, being gentle, caring for roots, taking or singing to the plants, silly but the kids love doing it!
  • I personally like to talk about the health benefits of eating all these yummy veggies your growing, it just may induce enough curiosity to get them trying it all.
  • Ofcourse purchase pesticide free fertilizers and organic soils, otherwise what’s the point, I mean this is for your family to eat.

For more information on natural organic gardening check out this website which I’ve found extremely useful The Organic Gardening Guru . I also found some great tips for Tot gardening at WildBound

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♕ Sleeping Beauty ♕

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What is it about the complete innocence of our little ones once they have passed out in our arms that is so seriously heart melting once they hit the “big kid” stage? Don’t get me wrong, when River was 6 days, weeks or even 6 months old the feeling was so serene and addicting. However when this little monster by day well and even by night for that matter completely wears herself out and turns to my lap as her drool mat, I melt!

My guess is that is has something to do with the fact that as they age we really start to see and feel like they need us a little less each day as they are becoming whole and completely capable little people. The whole sleeping thing in a whole has probably been my biggest task to tackle being a first time mom. I mean I want to sleep with her every night and let her repeatedly kick me in the face, ribs and stomach while hopefully grabbing 3 hours of uninterupted sleep, however I know the set backs of doing that. So every night we follow through with the routine, is it weird if I sleep next to her on the floor? Ok I’m kidding…

I think watching your child grow, develop and burn themselves out has to be one of the most full filling feelings I’ve experienced as a parent. I mean I get up work a few hours, get in a quick workout (if I’m lucky) and I’m ready for a nap. But toddlers, man they run around non stop, snack, color, destroy the house, need to go outside, the park, beat up the dog and wrestle with dad before feeling like they should take a little break! Guess I’m a little jealous 😉

Speaking of sleep…..who the heck decides it’s cool to be up at 4:45 a.m. to get stuff done! And no it didn’t take me two hours to write this, I’ve just been up since then to get some work done, get my workout in and have a few little minutes to myself before the Master of This House wakes up and takes the reigns! If only we had growth spurts it would make it a little more acceptable if we suddenly passed out anywhere as adults!

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